Really interesting article and one that resonates deeply with me. Before I continue I’d like to say my heart goes out to all who have lost love ones, so tragic and I’m so sorry.
i had catastrophic surgical complications which left me unable to eat or drink ( I was vein fed for months but I can now eat ), spent months in hospital, suffered respiratory failure and sepsis. Five years on im still broken physically and mentally ( I have a very complex abdominal fistula, a sight threatening eye condition which is linked to the bowel problem and PTSD, depression and anxiety. When it happened it was somehow normalised and I was made to feel I should be grateful to be alive not sad my health had been so severely compromised. I never pursued it as I was too traumatised. I suppose there are two types of harm, where someone is to blame or when it’s ‘one of those things’. I was even told ‘ well you signed the consent form’ ( not by my consultant who is very kind). It’s been hell on Earth and still is yet there is no help. I’m now so traumatised about going back into hospital , I keep putting a much needed procedure off.
I think things will get worse for people like me after Covid as there will be a lot of traumatised people out there. I am told ‘oh what happened to you is very rare’ ( so it doesn’t count ), to which I sometimes say ‘it’s only rare until it happens to you’.
sorry if my comment isn’t appropriate, I can't imagine how it feels to lose someone through harm and don’t pretend to. I have lost myself though in all of this and my husband has lost his wife. I feel invisible and irrelevant.